Change isn't good it's flipping great
- BrightSide
- Jan 15
- 2 min read
Updated: 1 day ago
Recently, I was having coffee with a friend who’s had a pretty tough year. She knows it’s time to move forward, but doing that means making some hard decisions.
She looked at me and sighed. “I’m just not good with change,” she said.
I reckon most of us feel the same. There’s comfort in a groove. Good, bad or indifferent, it’s familiar, and familiarity makes getting through the day a little easier. But days become weeks, weeks become years, and one morning you wake up somewhere very different from where you planned to be.
Then change hits you smack in the face. And it’s hard. It’s overwhelming. It’s exhausting.
But it can also be just a little bit exciting.
Change isn’t simply a hurdle to overcome. It keeps us moving, keeps us growing and gives us another shot.
Of course, when change is forced upon you through a relationship breakdown, redundancy or even a few cakes too many over the past couple of years, it can feel anything but positive or life-affirming. You don’t want to be there. You didn’t choose it. And you’re not good with change.
Or are you?
Do you wear the same clothes year after year? Watch the same television show every day? Have the same conversation with your friends? OK, maybe a little bit and that can be nice. But it would be pretty flipping boring if nothing ever changed.
Think about the small changes that make you feel good. Wearing an orange shirt instead of blue. Taking a different route on your morning run. Having breakfast for dinner. They feel exciting because you’re in charge. You’re moving and shaking.
The good news is that every big change is really just a series of smaller ones.
If you’re facing something monumental, such as selling the house, going it alone or changing jobs, don’t try to tackle it all at once, take some little steps first. Get a valuation. Put some feelers out. Rewrite your CV.
Then take refuge in your nicely grooved comfort zone for a while. Keep taking small steps until the big picture begins to feel a lot less frightening.
Nothing new happens without change. But with the right mindset, it might be exactly what you need. And then maybe change can be flipping great.
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Susan Hewitt is the Principal at Bright Side Family Law, a non-litigious family law and mediation practice. Susan has worked as a lawyer and journalist for almost 30 years. She is an accredited collaborative lawyer and family-law mediator who is committed to helping families through their relationship breakdown in an honest, cooperative and respectful manner.
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